We always look forward to being adults and getting our own independence and yes, independence is the real deal. First taste of independence is leaving your parents’ home for college of renting your own starter apartment you proudly call your own home but it’s just a matter of time and this still won’t be enough. Before you know it, your in a relationship or desperately looking for someone to relate with. Let’s borrow a leaf from politics, however strong countries are , they need a union. For their goods. Who is sharing with you your goodies?

Do not be mean by yourself, in sharing is the fulfilment of life and that’s enjoyment and pleasures of life. With the ever changing environment in relationship one would argue “ I don’t need a lady or a man to be happy, i can get pleasure by myself, online and one night stands etc.” That is true but how satisfying is it? How enjoyable and pleasurable can this be? Hunt your prey and enjoy it is the second law of the jungle.  If you fail to hunt your own, hunt from what has already been hunted and enjoy it.

“One can trash relationships not until you understand that we need one.” By nature we are relational beings and because of this you realize one need to relate. This explains why as feminists we end in bed with men and why patriarchs do the same.

One would wonder, “with all the evil we as women have suffered at the hand of the boys; why do we even think about getting locked with them? I mean we can be gays, transgender and something of the sort but we still find our way back to each other.  The reason is: we find each other fun and attractive.

Whether gay or traditional marriages all you need is someone in your life, someone who will give ear to whisper your pain and joys, a friend in the inside to tell you something he or she believes is making you better or worse.  Some of us react to pain as result of heart breaks and forget that the joy surpasses the pain.

If you know the joy of a companion then you understand the pain of being alone…..

……if you have ever held then you know the pain of not being held.

If you have romanced then you feel the strength of that desire and  the drive it give you.